Eight years after losing my mom my thoughts were heavier this year than previous. Some of us are called to say good-bye to love ones and let it be, but others feel called to continue the legacy in some small or larger way . The legacy can only live on thru others, but only if called to do so on this platform-whatever allows you to move forward and not get stuck in your grief. I have learned that grief is real-it doesn't have to consume you, but one needs to allow themselves to feel, cry or shout. But move forward.
In recognizing loss I reflected back on my teaching days during my Health class we discussed the seven (7) stages of grief which are 1) Shock &Denial, 2) Pain & Guilt, 3) Anger & Bargaining 4) Depression, Reflection, Loneliness 5)Upward turn, 6) Reconstruction & Working through 7) Acceptance & Hope
(Great reading at recovery-from-grief.com to get understanding of each stage).
I have found these to be helpful as I looked for understanding of my feelings, but always realizing that in each stage God was carrying me. I also realized time does heal all wombs, but it does't erase them.
So my advice to all and any is to take time to read and seek deeper understanding of those feeling that maybe laying dormant and allow yourself to move slowly thru each without thinking you are weak or crazy.
My strength always comes when I skip to the last one and realize that the final stage is HOPE! That's where I stand as I learned to live life without love ones physical presence. Let them live on thru you as you teach and share the lessons that they taught you while they were still walking and talking amongst us on earth.
So maybe this year hit harder because it was the 8th year of not having mom hereon earth and I also recognized that the number 8 in biblical numbers mean - New Beginnings! So now I believe and trust that yet another new Journey is beginning ! Yes, I have a heart that still fully miss mom, but moving forward to see what new beginnings lay ahead helps me hold on to my HOPE till we met again!
So to all that has experienced loss during this life time hold on to your hope and look forward to New Beginnings as well. But remember it does take TIME!!! Just remember as well to take it "One Day At A Time". Let the journey continue of learning to learn without a love one!!!
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